HOW TO BREAK UP WITHOUT CAUSING HEARTBREAK

HOW TO BREAK UP WITHOUT CAUSING HEARTBREAK



Break up is one hell of a sucker, it hurts like hell.
How do you tell the person you once loved or still love that the relationship is over?
Truth is, breaking up with someone is difficult and can be devastating , you are rejecting someone you promised love and it's pretty nerve wrecking working up the courage.


but hey, when you gather the courage to do so, how do you break it off without causing  a lot of heartbreak.
seriously, you need to consider that because heartbreak is not something you'd want to experience so don't go out dishing it out to people like it's pizza or.Nigerian jollof rice.
Cos honey, that shit hurts like hell, kills self esteem and can really mess up  a persons life and their idea about love.
So before you go running off the mouth about how tired you are of the relationship,here..take a seat.. yeah ... that's it, now let's talk about how you can call it off without ruining someone's life.



Maybe you started dating and your relationship goes official, you're seen together most of the times. your friends get to find out and his friend knows too.
you both are on facebook,  instagram, twitter and all social media platforms together all the time. but then you stop having fun or you're totally crushing on someone else, so you want out.
But how do you do that?


  • DON'T IGNORE OR DODGE

Ignoring someone by not returning their texts or not picking their calls and dodging them when you meet outside is really dumb. although this might seem the best way out but having it done to you seriously hurts.
instead of ignoring them, meet them and give hints that show that you don't want to be in the relationship any longer.
One thing you should never do is leave someone without an explanation, they might just die in self guilt blaming  themselves.

  • AVOID DOING IT OVER TEXT



Ever heard of break ups through text or phone calls, hell thats immature, harsh and insensitive.
Just grow up already!
if you must end it, do it in person, meet and talk about it except it is a long distance relationship.
Don't send a scrappy weepy text screaming "it's over", get a life already.


  • DON'T PICK A FIGHT


You might try to pick a fight or act in an insensitive and selfish way just to get the other person to drop you off, trust me, it is not hilarious.
Just plain stupid and immature.
i've seen guys who do this mostly during valentine just so they don't get to spend on the girl and then reconcile after the festival.
they do or say something annoying , when their partner responds in anger, they be like "that's it, get out..we are done" just to go back begging afterwards. 
It might be funny but it seriously doesn't make sense, if you can't maintain a girl, don't keep her!


  • AVOID TALKING IT WITH EVERYONE


Seriously, after a break up, just shut up, okay.
it doesn't matter whether you ended it or the other person did, you don't have to tell everyone about it afterwards.
i always wonder why people go running off the mouth after a break up like they having a political campaign.
Hell, their is no  sense in that.
Besides, are trying to gather sympathizers for what/
This shows immaturity, really.

A break up is tough, to handle or to engineer. It can be devastating and disastrous too if handled well.
well, here are ways to break up without causing heartbreak.

  • MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE IF YOU'RE SCARED OF YOUR SAFETY.
  • AVOID THE BLAME GAME.
  • MAKE IT KNOWN THAT YOU ENJOYED THEM BEING A PART OF YOUR LIFE.
  • DON'T MAKE PROMISES.
  • DON'T TRY TO REMAIN FRIENDS AFTERWARDS, GIVE THEM TIME TO HEAL.



Well, since I'm not all knowing, feel free to let me know other ways you think are better to handle a break up without causing so much heartbreak in the comment box.
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10 comments:

Ridwan tomi said...

Nice write-up.

The Crocheting Mom said...

Great post. I had an ex take me out to dinner to do it. I did appreciate that he did it in person and not just over the phone. It proved that he did care for me, but it wasn't meant to be.

Alyssa said...

Nice ideas to condsider. We could all be nicer sometimes.

yolonda said...

Yea, breaking up is hard - even when you are the one doing the breaking up. Too firm and you devastate the other person even more. Not firm enough and you risk them thinking they still have a shot.

Ramona Spires said...

These are good ways to leave a relationship amicably. Very nice.

empressing empressing said...

That's right Ramona, thank you

empressing empressing said...

Really hard Yolonda. and tougher when you are the when the one doing initiating it.

empressing empressing said...

of a truth Alyssa, it hurts nobody to be nice

Mary O said...

Interesting post and very educative. Thanks.

John Portal said...

There are no other better ways than the one you just listed.

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